About
About
This page is about me AND you. Some background about me. A bit about some of the things that matter to me. Some views that you are likely to share. The commitments you are willing to make. If these don’t ring true with you, we’re unlikely to work well together.
WHO DO I WORK WITH?
Many of my clients, like me, tend to be lawyers or other professionals. They often began as highly engaged, enthusiastic career professionals full of hope for a promised rosy future. But the promise didn’t manifest. Lawyers are under so much pressure! Typically they have progressively become more disillusioned, unfulfilled and unhappy ~ whether professionally or personally.
Does this resonate with you?
I was once that person. It took some deep soul searching before I transitioned to my radically different career path as a coach.
Many of my clients have reported feeling:
“There must be more to life…” ~ “My employer owned me…” ~ “I had a fantastic job but no family life…” ~ “I became a shadow of my former self…” ~ “I was afraid to lose the comfort of my salary” ~ “I thought it would get better, but I ended up having a breakdown…” ~ “I was having more niggly conflicts” ~ “I didn’t sleep well” ~ “I drank too much, and ate unhealthily…” ~ “My relationships suffered…”
In short, by the time they came to me, they were led not by what they loved, but by something they wanted to get away from. (By the way, I’d encourage you not to wait until you’ve hit rock bottom!)
Or, put another way, they’d lost meaning and purpose.
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MY BACKGROUND
I almost fell into my original chosen career as a lawyer, with enthusiasm. But after a few years I became jaded. It was a gradual decline. I found myself arriving late for work and having extended lunch breaks. I was disciplined for my time keeping and performance. The quality of my working relationships declined. I was feeling morose and detached from my position in the organisation. Everything felt like a struggle.
I was sad and confused. How was it even possible that I could be feeling this way when I was intelligent, very good at what I did, and highly regarded by my boss? Yet something was missing. The hollowness gradually grew until it felt like a gaping hole had opened up inside me. I dreaded going to work. I was in a descending spiral.
Then I woke up one day and I realised that I was depending on other people and circumstances around me to meet my need to feel valued and fulfilled. I embarked on a personal journey to ‘work on’ myself. Bit by bit everything began to magically shift even while I continued in my profession.
I’m not going to lie. It was a bumpy road at times. I wasn’t as easy as just waving a magic wand and ‘poof’ Abracadabra! Hand on heart, I’ll forever be grateful for the unwavering support of my own mentors and coaches who helped keep me afloat and on track.
Ultimately I discovered my new found passion for making a difference through coaching. And it felt like I had found myself. What a relief!
I now support people like the ‘old’ me. I can help you avoid the angst and mistakes that I made, because I’ve been there.
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YOUR PURPOSE
How about you, are you in the struggle of life? Would you love to connect or re-connect ∼ and stay connected ∼ with your true purpose?
Here’s the thing… I’ve learned that discovering AND then embodying your true purpose is a matter of the heart and soul. And in matters of the heart, your heart matters.
When you’re in the struggle of life or deeply unfulfilled, you are disconnected from your heart.
So yes… Love matters… In all aspects of your life… even including work.
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WHO AM I?
Good to meet you. I’m Kim Parker. Lawyer turned coach and breathwork facilitator. I’m all about love.
Love in its truest sense. Doing what you love. Loving what you do. Being true to YOU. Loving yourself. Loving our earth. Loving life even in difficult times. Honouring the full range of human emotions. Creating what you love despite the flaws, disappointments and mistakes.
You can hear my audio about my career path from long-term lawyer to wellbeing and transformational coach, and some lessons I learned along the way here.
THE FORMER ME
I was an ambitious, driven, hard-working lawyer. Proud of my intellect. Part time business on the side. Single parent. Busy. Accomplished at my work. Questioning, probing, dedicated to high standards. A clear view of right and wrong. A need to know. My sense of fulfilment determined according to exam grades, the juicy challenges of problem-solving, the quality of my personal and professional relationships, and the degree of recognition I received.
But ultimately merely existing. Unhappy. Frustrated with others and the world. A chronic health condition. Struggling. Not choosing life. Life was happening TO me. Why me? I hadn’t signed up for ‘this’.
Then I went on a metaphorical journey. I have steadily re-mastered my life. I don’t seek happiness, and yet I have never been happier.
THE NEW ME
Actively creating what truly matters to me ongoingly, not waiting for life to improve. In good health. ‘Being’ before having and doing. Conscious. Accepting my gifts and my imperfections. Living life, embracing freedom through responsibility. Allowing rather than pushing. Releasing the need to know and instead experiencing the magic. The discovery of a burgeoning wisdom accessed through finely-honed intuition. An ever deepening bond with the land and nature. Appreciation of ‘what is’. The relief of pure presence. Joy derived from within self. The richness of meaningful connection. Still imperfectly human.
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ASPECTS OF MY PERSONAL GROWTH JOURNEY
In no particular order, I offer you some snippets of the transformational consciousness journey I have been (and continue to be) on. These and many others have all contributed in some measure to my personal evolution into the person I have become and my commitment to my mission today.
♥ I value our earth, personified by Pachamama and Gaia, and the ancient cultures and wisdom of indigenous peoples around the globe. Did you, like me, weep at the destruction of the Tree of Souls in the movie ‘Avatar’? I have visited some amazing places in the world over the last 30 years, and was particularly stirred by my experiences in Tibet, Vietnam, Siberut Island and Peru.
♥ I marvel every day at the fascinating creativity of nature, her foundation for our wellbeing, and her powerful yet gentle, steady teachings. I’m now the privileged custodian of a beautiful piece of land and words can’t convey the reverence I have and how, as time passes, I feel more and more deeply connected with my land. This is the land on which I am developing my own soulful retreat space.
♥ What is the point of life? When I first read ‘The Invitation’ by Oriah Mountain Dreamer as I transitioned to becoming a coach, I sobbed and sobbed. It felt like an arrow had pierced the very core of my being. It was a profound invitation to a more fulfilling, honest and passionate life. If you do nothing else, please read the poem, it can make you think about what is really important in your life.
♥ ‘As within, so without’. Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. The answers we seek lie within us. We change the world only by changing ourselves. When I discovered Ho’oponopono (the Hawaiian practice of forgiveness and healing) it challenged me to shift my perception.
♥ It was a ‘frying pan to the face’ moment for me when I learned about Hermetic philosophy and that we actually create everything we experience (the good, the bad and the ugly). Uncomfortable but undeniably true. Only when willing to see and acknowledge the lead can the alchemist turn it into gold.
♥ We are more powerful than most of us realise. Mind over matter. I was stunned when I first saw people ceremonially dancing over hot coals in their bare feet in Sri Lanka in the early 1990s. In 2017 I firewalked multiple times when I learned to be a firewalking instructor, and I experienced the impact of our mental and emotional state on the results we manifest.
♥ Something we all do naturally every moment of every day and yet usually take for granted can be our profound healer and teacher when we use it in a conscious way. The incredible power of the breath impacted me so intensely when I was first introduced to breathwork in 2017 that I felt compelled to dive deeply in and qualify as a breathwork facilitator so that I could pass on the amazingness.
♥ We all have blind spots in our consciousness. It is invaluable to have a skilled coach offer their neutral, honest insights and observations. I have learned so much from my own coaches that I have worked with over the years. One of the things my clients say consistently is how much they value the fact that I walk my talk, and am just a number of steps ahead of them on a similar journey.
♥ For many years my favourite movie was “Dead Poets Society”. What affected me profoundly was the portrayal of the catastrophic consequences of not honouring your heart’s true calling. It also depicted the unhealthy impact of conventional education culture, and the killing of creativity, about which the inspiring late Sir Ken Robinson has spoken in his brilliant TED Talks.
ABOUT YOU
♥ I care deeply about my clients. Some of my clients have been working with me for years. It is such a privilege to do what I do. My clients are likely to entrust me with their deepest fears, their darkest secrets and their vulnerabilities. I do not downplay the enormity of this for them. Each of my clients matters. I give the very best of me. I build heart-centred relationships with all my clients. If you view coaching as a mere transactional relationship, I am not the right coach for you.
♥ I am known for my directness. Everything I do and say in the context of my coaching comes from a place of love in service to your highest good. Sometimes the truth is uncomfortable to hear. I believe life is too short NOT to uncover and face the truth, from where we can move forwards. If you want a coach who skates around difficult issues, I am not the right coach for you.
♥ I take my longer-term clients on a deep dive down the rabbit hole. We go as deep as you’re willing to go. To use a renovation/decoration analogy, I support you with full underpinning and restoration, not just papering over the cracks. If you’d rather choose the blue pill (as per ‘The Matrix’ movie) and stay where you are in life so that nothing fundamentally changes, I cannot help you and I am not the right coach for you.
♥ The purpose of my coaching is to support you to make such conscious changes in your life and work as will enable you to get the results that deeply matter to you. I offer you a range of resources that you can then use for the rest of your life to sustainably create whatever you want. I can not do it for you. You need to be willing to ‘do the work’. This means showing up, taking on board what you learn, and taking appropriate action. If you want me to wave a magic wand for you, while you abdicate responsibility for your own choices, I am not the right coach for you.
♥ You rate people and the planet before profit alone, knowing that the greatest riches flow when you are ‘on purpose’. You are conscientious and you care. You are ready to give yourself what you need. You are ready to make a stand for what matters the most to you.
MY PURPOSE
My programmes are about what I call heart-centred living… as opposed to auto-pilot or reactive living (which we all do by default… because we’re human).
My purpose is to bring professionals home to love. Not the gushy romantic love of a feel-good rom com (although I don’t rule that out too!)… but the ability to purposefully create a life that inspires you, giving yourself your heart’s deepest desires, while being TRUE TO YOURSELF.
The alternative can often be struggle and strife.
♥ Let’s face it, we all need love in our life!
You’ll probably agree that ‘love’ is not a typically heard word in business. Part of my vision is to bring love to the ‘boardroom’. You can hear more about what I mean by this in my interview with Stephanie Bosch here.
Are you curious to see how coaching and/or breathwork with me could support you with the next phase of your life and/or work? Would you like a RISK-FREE, NO OBLIGATION experience of what a coaching session with me can be like? If so, I have just the thing for you! You can book a discounted one-off taster session with me using the link in the purple box here:
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♥ WHAT DO PEOPLE SAY ABOUT ME? ♥
You can see a selection of client recommendations on my LinkedIn profile (the button is down below)
or you can go here for a wider selection of client testimonials and success stories
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WHAT ARE MY CREDENTIALS?
I began coaching in 2009, and am a Master Coach accredited by the Natural Success Coaching Association and the IAPC&M (International Authority for Professional Coaching & Mentoring). I am also a fully certified breathwork facilitator.
I’m a lifelong learner, committed to my own growth and I walk my own talk. Everything I now teach and coach is what I have personally learned and live by. It has changed my life. There’s no going back. I know it works!